Marriage is a change that happens in our lives whether it is planned or unplanned. Nobody can ever plan his life at least I do not think so. Marriage is full of surprises mostly pleasant and a few unpleasant ones.Whatever said and done it is a life changing experience and that too permanent. It changes us women in a deep way . It moves us and transforms us in innumerable ways.
My marriage happened last year and now when I reflect I have changed and changed in more ways than one. Like any emancipated woman I did not let go of my maiden name though I added my husband's surname on social networking sites. The changes that I want to emphasise on are the ones that are not visible and you are as though living another life. It is another life in your life and maybe when you become mother which I hope I become soon will be another life . So we have one life but it constantly changes how things change from being a carefree schoolgirl to a college going adult ,being an achiever to becoming an administrator and then playing spouse to your dream man. Phew sounds like a lot of hard work. It seems like an onion with innumerable layers but one flavour. Here lies the key!!
I think all of us must try to have that aim that whether life changes us or we change our lives ,we should not change our basic self .That pure free spirit should never be chained. That hunger to do new things should never be satiated. Our personality is our favour and so even if there is marriage or children remember to do it your way. People will advise you and will make you have a checklist of do's and dont's .It is not necessary to cook after marriage do it if you must but do it only when you love it. I had never cooked before marriage but found myself on the wrong foot post marriage. Not that I had to cook compulsorily but recently I have started cooking and cooking on my own terms . Cooking what I love .it is like a form of pure love that I want to serve my husband. So that is what I was talking about that earlier I found it uncool to cook or be anywhere within a radius of 10 feet near a kitchen but now I cook maybe once in a month but with a smile on my face and love in my heart.And no I am not posting any recipes here. This stands for everything in life. Please have a reason to do things.
So please girls change but change for love and to love .Change but not to prove others but to challenge your own soul. Change if you must but always love yourself your soul and your conscience. It is only then that you can love your husband and your children. Your love must grow and not decline with marriage.Remember love always attracts more love and happiness.Be happy and be proud and change is life.
